Card #151 – He Said/ She Said

Focusing on the small side of relationships. It is all too easy for our attention to become obsessed with some overblown soap opera.

If you are emotionally entangled, ask yourself: “When have I felt this before?” If you are honest with yourself, you will almost certainly recall having similar feelings in previous circumstances. Instead of exclusively attributing our feelings to the current situation, we should recognize that outside events are merely triggers for classic internal patterns of emotional reactivity, which we’ve experienced throughout our lives.

How much will the present difficulty matter in 100 years? Handle your relationships in a way you will remember well on your deathbed.

For more on how to conduct yourself in relationships and how to change those classic patterns of emotional reactivity see:
A Guide to the Perplexed Interdimensional Traveler
Other Intentions to examine your intentions toward the other
Challenging Thoughts on Love
Lessons for an Entity Incarnating as a Mammal
No Tristans Allowed Beyond this Point — Debunking the Western Myth of Romantic Love
Confessions of a Self Aware Starship
and other writings in the Eros: Love and Sexuality category of the writings section