Zap Oracle Card # - © Jonathan Zap
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If you have such relationships, nurture them. Appreciate them and acknowledge the power they have in your life; they are like planets in a complex orbit with your planet. If you presently seem to be lacking such relationships, then you must be an amazingly good spiritual ally for yourself. If you feel a soulful longing for such relationships that is not being fulfilled, then stay open and alert to the possibilities. And don’t limit yourself to social mammals, there may be other sorts of entities, some of whom may once have been social mammals. For example, a great author from the past can serve as a spiritual ally. It would be meeting more than halfway if you were out prowling for such relationships, because you cannot force them to happen. Those who are connected by inner ties manage to find each other, and that process is often assisted by the most improbable synchronicities.
For those willing to read more, consider the text of the card “soulmates,”
One of the most powerful experiences that human incarnation has to offer is the soulmate love relationship. Soulmate love relationships are not necessarily romantic relationships. Not every romantic relationship is between soulmates, and not every soulmate relationship is romantic. Sometimes a soulmate relationship could involve romantic longing from one party that is not reciprocated by the other. There are many highly individualized possibilities. What soulmate relations have in common is that two entities are connected by deep, inner ties. Soulmates do not have to both be members of the same species. Soulmate relationships between a human and a cat or dog, for example, are quite common.
Soulmate relations offer some of the greatest opportunities for fulfillment in life, but also some of the deepest suffering as well. Soulmate relations are likely to bring higher highs and lower lows. Soulmates can sometimes strike out at each other, abandon and/or betray each other, and become separated from each other by death or other forces. Sharing your soul with another is a perilous process that brings great possibilities of metamorphosis and fulfillment, but also great possibilities for dependency and torment. Soulmate relationships require that you both bond deeply with someone, but also surrender control and attachment to the other.
The most common mistake people make about soulmates is the delusional, selfish and exclusionary belief that there is one true and all-encompassing soulmate to be found. Unless your incarnation is highly impoverished, soulmates should be plural, not singular. Some people will focus selfishly and obsessively on finding that one special romantic soulmate in a way that causes them to miss many opportunities for love. Soulmate relations are very often not romantic, and when we excessively romanticize soulmates we tend to blame them for the collapse of our idealizations, and then abandon them as we search for that one true ideal soulmate. And if you found your greatest opportunity for a romantic soulmate, having such an attitude would likely overburden and even destroy the relationship.
Instead of thinking about finding “my soulmate” think instead about recognizing your “tribe of soulmates,” many of whom you probably already know.
No Tristans Allowed Beyond this Point — Debunking the Western Myth of Romantic Love
Many relevant writings can be found in the eros, romance, love and sexuality category of this site.
For those willing to read more consider the following meditation on eros and soulmates:
There are some people that we are connected to by inner ties and this is something we will sense deep inside. But be careful, infatuation can create a false positive. In the case of infatuation we feel a deep inner stirring, but it us falling in love with the image of a split-off part of our own soul. Sometimes we will be infatuated with someone who is also a soulmate. The infatuation projection is what will most likely keep us apart. This image also represents the deeply entwined relationship between eros and your psyche or soul. Eros is something much more than sex. It refers to our capacity for oceanic merger with others. Pornography is unerotic sex on the level of the genitalia, while a sufficiently deep platonic relationship could be highly erotic. The path we follow with our eros usually parallels our soul. Someone could succeed in athletics, in business, in some career track or area of tunnel intelligence while neglecting or abusing his eros, but this will be a very hollow success. What advantage is there in gaining a lot of conquests, or neglecting your eros while busily pursuing something else if you lose your own soul in the process? Be true to your unique, individual eros, not one of the conditioned templates that the social matrix wants you to truncate yourself to fit.